“I wrote it in such a way that’s simplistic enough so everyone could get something from it,” he said. “I want people to understand and hone in, that we could better understand ourselves, [and say,] ‘I can show up to the world better.’”
During the enlightening conversation, the life coach gave tips on how to have a better relationship with yourself and your mind.
Dr. Corey told Jenn that he starts his day every day by listening to Bill Withers’ “Lovely Day.”
Though he interpreted the song as Bill “looking at [someone who] is going to give [him] a lovely day,” Dr. Corey flipped it to mean, “I’m not going to wait for someone to smile at me, I’m going to smile at [myself].”
“I’ve already smiled at me and I’m good with me,” he elaborated. “Doesn’t mean things are perfect, [but it means] I’m good with me right now. I’m a better version of myself today than yesterday.”
Stop Saying ‘Try’
If Dr. Corey could get rid of one word from the vocabulary, it would be “try.”
“There is no such thing,” he said. “I do or I do not.”
He gave an example of a person saying, “I’m going to try to call you,” to someone they know.
“She ain’t,” Dr. Corey said to laughter from the audience.
“‘Try’ is a copout. [It keeps] you in the middle. Let’s be more clear. Life is too short to dance around.”
Dr. Corey added that it’s okay not to do something you don’t want to do.
Being Uncomfortable Leads to Growth
While giving advice to Jennifer about her new daytime TV venture, Dr. Corey said that any opportunity you have “to grow and stretch” will be “uncomfortable.”
“I’m a deep believer that discomfort is indication that we’re growing,” he explained. “Any time I’m feeling uncomfortable, I take a moment to pause, [and think,] ‘What am I growing into? What am I about to birth?’”
Dr. Corey added that it takes courage to be vulnerable, especially when — like Jennifer — you are “[shifting] into a new world.”
“[Former President of South Africa] Nelson Mandela said, ‘We either win or we learn.’ Those opportunities to learn aren’t losses or negative things. We’ll repeat mistakes if we haven’t figured out a way to draw down those learnings.”